Monday, November 17, 2008

Christmas Revolution

A few of you may have noticed the other day that my facebook status said I was looking for ways to have a "subversive Christmas."  I wanted to take a few minutes to talk about what I meant exactly.

If you're not familiar with that term, Encarta defines it as:  
Subversive: [adj] somebody involved in subversive activities: somebody involved in activities intended to undermine or overthrow a government or other institution
The definition I am going for of course is the overthrowing of an institution.  I have no current plans to overthrow the government, but I'll let you know if that changes.  I believe that Christmas as we practice it here and now has gotten so far away from the simple celebration of our Savior, that we need to do something, anything, to change it.
Here's the deal; one evening about two thousand and eight years ago, or so, angels appeared in the skies above a field of shepherds and announced to them that the long awaited Messiah had come.
Fear not: for, behold, I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be to all people.  For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Saviour, which is Christ the Lord.  And this shall be a sign unto you; Ye shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes, lying in a manger. 
And suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God, and saying, Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.
This was how the very first Christmas was heralded in.  The Creator of the Universe didn't invite any world leaders, the rich or other MVP types into the most important events in all of history.  Instead, He invited poor working class field hands to come and share in this world changing event.  When this humble King grew up, He did not live in luxury or excess, instead, He chose to live as a homeless carpenter; hanging out with the poor, the sick, and the downtrodden.  That's the Jesus I love.  He cares for those who no one else cares about.      

So how did the birth of Jesus come to become an orgy of rampant consumerism and mindless busy-ness?  How did we trade in the worship of Jesus the King for the worship of the idols of shopping and merchandise?  I don't really know, but I want to stop it now.  Since we're all adults now, we are free to work to change things in this world that we don't like.  

Susan and I want to work to build a Christmas for our family that first glorifies God in the highest and then produces peace and good will between all men.  We want to find new patterns, rhythms, and traditions that hold true to the character of Jesus first and foremost.

Now I'm sure there may be two things running through your mind right now.  

First, you may be saying to yourself now, good grief, I don't want to hear about Christmas yet, it’s too early.  I totally understand that, but since I want to work to change the way my family and people around us totally perceive the holiday, I can’t wait too long.  

Last year Susan and I tried to change up the way we did Christmas, but we didn't start talking about it until a few weeks before Christmas  By that point, everyone had already been sucked into the Christmas money machine and weren't very receptive.  We also took a lot of heat from some in our families for trying to opt out and not buy gifts for every single person.  So we can't wait or we'll get in trouble again.

Second, you may also be thinking, good grief Jason, can't you just leave anything well enough alone. The answer to that is apparently not.  Christmas is one of the most significant events in the history of the universe, yet our celebration and recognition of that event is so gross and different from the character of the person we celebrate that something has to change.

Now please don't label me as a Christmas hater. I love the holiday so much and want to see it as a true celebration of the birth of our savior and not a consumeristic mockery that it can be at times now. 

So I'm looking for co-conspirators in my Christmas Revolution.  Am I the only one that is fed up with business as usual, or would anyone else like to join me in my subversion?  I plan on posting several more things to help the fight over the next few weeks.  Let me know some of your thoughts on this because I'd love to discuss it some more.

25 comments:

peaj said...

I love not buying Christmas gifts.

Just after I got married, I told my parents and brothers and their family that I wasn't going to get them gifts, and that they were welcome to not get me anything either. I told them that they were welcome to get my kids gifts, but that they should not expect to watch my kids open them. We felt that the frenzy that surrounds the frantic gift-unwrapping to be counter to what we were trying to do, so we prepared my family that we would spread out giving the gifts to our kids over time.

Instead, what we have done is focus on the Alternative Christmas catalog. We designate a dollar amount for each member of our family to control (adults usually get slightly more), and every year, as close to Christmas Eve that we can manage, we get together and decide how we will "spend" this money on missions and alms giving. Each person reads through the catalog and decides what they want to give Jesus for his birthday. It is really exciting, to have this chunk of cash to give away as I feel led by the Spirit. It never seems like enough. I feel it is oftenw hen I feel most generous during the year.

I used to intensely dislike Christmas. However, after doing Christmas this way over the last many years, I have begun to actually enjoy the holiday.

Susan Marie said...

That's so cool, Peaj! Hopefully, we can learn from your example and truly emulate the character of Jesus to our family and friends. I hope that's what comes across to people. I don't want them to just think we are grinches.

christine said...

Peaj- I can remember you guys doing that when I was growing up. I think Erin and I talked about it and thought it was cool that you had your kids unwrap their presents over a long period of time.

Now, I don't know exactly what I have to say though about this topic because I LOVE Christmas and I LOVE buying people presents. I love seeing people open their presents and I love getting to see people I love surprised by the gifts they've gotten. I do understand though where you're coming from and I'm sure that you will find a way to be true to what you are feeling now and also still enjoy the fun of Christmas. I really love Peaj's tradition for Christmas and would like to do something similar as a part of our Christmas. That's a cool way of giving Jesus gifts.

Jessica Latshaw said...

I do think the alternative christmas catalogue is awesome--what a cool idea, Peaj! Can I ask you how your kids like it, too?

Jason and Susan--are you guys going to not do a tree and decorations and things like that? Just wondering. I love celebrating Jesus' birth. I do, however, also love the traditions that come with that celebration--even the gift-giving. This year, my family has a very low dollar limit on the amount we are spending on each other, trying to be more creative and not be stressed by paying out the wazoo in one month...So anyway, what are your specific ideas? You mentioned something about just buying gifts for certain family members--is there anything else you are doing?

Susan Marie said...

Christine, of course I can totally relate to what you are saying about the joy of giving gifts. That's why we are taking this strategic approach. We'd much rather give someone something we made ourselves than just something we bought- but time constraints will necessarily limit how many gifts we can give- and that's kind of the point. I think it will be even more fun to give someone a scarf that I knitted than one that I bought Even thought the hand-made scarf will take longer, it will be more enjoyable- and I'll sincerely be thinking about the recipient for longer- as I choose the yarn color, the pattern or even knit a new row.

Jess, we are still planning to decorate. We will get a tree, but probably not until later in December. Jason always teases me about the tree because I am so emotionally attached to having one every year. There's a great stand-up routine by Jim Gaffigan where he says that the Christmas decoration tradition sounds like something a drunk guy came up with- "I love our holiday traditions, you know, like the Christmas tree. You go out and bring a pine tree into the living room. That sounds like the behavior of a drunk man. His wife comes downstairs in the morning, "honey, why is there a pine tree in our living room?"

"I like it! We're gonna decorate it. For Jesus!"

Anyway, I digress...

Jessica Latshaw said...

lol, susan--I've seen that and it's hilarious;-)

But still, it would make me sad to pick and choose the family members I gave gifts to over ones that I didn't; is that hard for you guys to decide who gets gifts--even if it simply in the interest of time?

jason j said...

Jess,
I've been thinking of doing a white elephant for all the adults and older kids in the family..

I've done that twice and really enjoyed it both times, because the focus isn't on the presents as much as your friends. I really enjoyed the one we did last year at Christine and Josh's, even if Josh did steal my beer.

jason said...

Are we allowed to give opposing viewpoints?

jason j said...

What does that mean? Of course you can opposing viewpoints.

Jessica Latshaw said...

The white elephant idea is different from what Susan said, though, considering that you have no idea who will receive the present that you bought, therefore the thought behind it is irrelevant since it could be for any one of twenty or so people.

I actually don't love white elephant gift circles because it makes me feel anxious, but that is just me. If that is something you guys consider to be special, than go for it (and maybe buy yourself some beer, in case Josh steals yours again)...

jason j said...

We don't have a good game plan laid out.. I'd possibly prefer small homemade gifts for the immediate family and then a white elephant for the rest of the extended family that gathers together. We'll see.. This whole thing is a work in progress.

jason said...

I thought there was some conversation where you got frustrated because not everyone agreed with you, and I didn't know if this was supposed to be just for people who wanted to join the movement or not. :-)

jason j said...

Well obviously I'd prefer you to agree with me, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion; even if it is wrong :)

Agree or disagree, however, the revolution will continue as planned.

peaj said...

I asked the boy what he thought about how we do Christmas, and he said that it is tough to have to wait to open gifts. But you know, I notice that now, even though we don't compel them to do this, they very often do voluntarily space out their gift opening. They at least focus on each gift and treat it as special, which is really all that we are aiming for.

Actually, his first response to my question, where I mentioned that we don't exchange gifts, was "we get gifts, just not from you guys" - so, in a way, there is still an association of christmas = gifts.

Susan Marie said...

Jess, I think maybe I got distracted by one child or the other before I was able to fully communicate my idea for Christmas this year. What I was trying to say is that I plan to give my close family (sister, dad, husband, children) just one special gift- probably something homemade. For the kids in my extended family, we will probably make something small- Jason found a really cool recipe for Lego-shaped gummy candy which is one idea we are entertaining.

For the rest of the extended family, as Jason mentioned, we are hoping to do a gift exchange type thing. We used to do that every year, but somewhere along the line, everyone stopped organizing the name drawing, and last year we had total Bedlam with everyone opening tons of gifts in a mad frenzy. Of course, Jason and I had not gotten (or given) any memos, so we just stood in the midst of everything wondering what happened to our nice, orderly family Christmas gift exchange.

Jason, we invite you to express your opinion, knowing fully that many people still really enjoy the magic of giving their family and friends special gifts at Christmas time as part of the celebration. We have found that the hustle and bustle of the traditional style Christmas leaves us feeling exhausted, stressed and in debt. We are looking for an alternative that preserves the joy without the negative side-effects!

kathiek said...

We do a tree every year (actually since 2 years ago, we have put up 2 trees...they are artificial, though I am not opposed to real trees~but then I would only put up one) and we give gifts to each other, Nathan, Sherry, Brooklyn, our parents, and the children of our siblings (we try to keep it reasonable, we try to buy from small businesses and local merchants whenever possible, and we shop craft shows a lot). On my side of the family, we do not give any gifts to our siblings, but on John's side of the family, we do. However, in the past we just drew names and each person got one gift (actually, 2, because we're all couples). For the last 2 years, we each bought a gift card from someplace, then did a white elephant-type exchange.

When we (John and I) celebrate at home, I have always read the Christmas story and prayed before anything was allowed to be opened. Oh, also, we have never done the Santa thing. I do like the Alternative Christmas catalog, and we have done it twice, but we need to continue to do it...we (meaning "I") have just been woefully unorganized the last couple years and have missed it. :-( Don't forget the Giving Tree, that's a good idea, too.

jason said...

I've decided to pass on commenting... maybe someday if I drink too much chocolate milk late at night I'll say something.

peaj said...

34 Great Gifts You Can Make Yourself.

semi anonymous said...

Jason, I am completely on board with you on this one. I wish my dh and I had given this some thought when we first got married. Several years into, we found people weren't very receptive to changing how it had already been done. One of my favorite (and funny) books on the subject is John Grisham's "Skipping Christmas." It's fiction, but it really highlights the extreme focus we now place on buying stuff and the competitive aspect of decorating the outside of our homes etc. Nationally, there does seem to be very little focus on Jesus, or even goodwill towards men. I think you are brave to keep debating these "controversial" topics. It's amazing to me how much people have invested in keeping the status quo of how America does Christmas now.

PeaJ, that is an AWESOME link you posted, and I'm only up to item 20.

Blair said...

As an aethist, I love the holiday mainly as a reason to get together with family, secondly, for the tackiness and the lights. I've always loved handmade gifts, and respect and love the anti-commercialism efforts made by so many.

Though, if you want a tradition that will stick and can serve as an example of giving and spreading love, I'd suggest spending a portion of the holiday (or the days prior to or following the holiday) at a soup kitchen or a charity doing work together as a family.

Also, you could donate money to anyone of these charities hit hard by the bank fallout instead of giving (or making a gift):

http://nymag.com/guides/holidays/gifts/2008/52178/

Or you could attend a rally to give gays equal marriage rights in your state. Nothing says spreading the word of love and generosity than true equality! :)

jason j said...

Blair,
we're hoping to do some sort of work for charities or at the very least do some donation work.

peaj said...

Jason, check out this site:

No Christmas Gifts This Year

merry said...

Clearly it would be fantastic if we all focused more on Jesus not just at Christmas time but all year round. Also, it would be great if we just in general were more loving and caring towards others. I also think it is awesome how you want to shake things up. I am usually in the mood for a good shake up.HOWEVER, I adore Christmas and all the traditions that come with it. It really isn't just about the birth of Jesus but also a time of our family,which is now spread all the way to the west coast,getting together for some traditions. Gingerbread houses, carol singing, decorating...ETC. These things are important to us as we are all(The ladies at least) very sentimental.We tried to have a pollyanna one year(correct me if I am wrong but a white elephant is usually when people bring a gift from home and it can be crap)and no one went for it. Everyone wanted to give to everyone and it really didn't have as much to do with receiving. I think we all keep the true Christmas spirit which is giving. What God gave the world. What the wisemen gave Jesus. What we give each other. Now let's all join hands and sing O holy night damn it.

kathiek said...

Merry, you're a stitch!! :-)

Susan Marie said...

Merry, I love many of the same things that you love about Christmas. Since my mom died, I've had to really examine what I love most about Christmas in an effort to carve out my own special traditions- rather than just slavishly attempting to replicate my mother's. Still, it's not Christmas to me unless we have a trimmed up tree in the living room, delicious cookies in festive tins, Tchaikovsky or Handel playing in the background (and not as the music in a car commercial)...
The real revelation for me has been the freedom to cast off the things that made me crazy- standing in long register lines at the mall, staring bleary-eyed at a list of items for relatives I never see, feeling awkward when my dad or Jason's dad has dropped a ton of money on ill-fitting clothes or big-ticket items we don't need (or have storage space for).
Obviously, there is beauty and and love to be found in the act of giving gifts. I fully intend to seek that essence of beauty and love this year. Of course, it helps that I work from home, so I can knit up a scarf while the kids are napping- or I can whip up some homemade candy in the evening.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I love Christmas so much that I want to apply the principle of simplicity to the way I celebrate in an effort to achieve exactly that magical experience that you describe.

So- I agree with you- let's all sing O Holy Night!!